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If the person you love changed completely, would you still love them?
Loyalty through change tests whether love is a response to valuable qualities or a commitment to someone who can lose them.
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Your partner comes back from a year abroad with new opinions, new friends and a laugh you don't recognize. Or a stroke leaves your father gentle where he was sharp. You look at a familiar face and wonder, guiltily, what exactly it was you loved.
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